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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm surprised at all of the responses here that are admonishing OP for wanting to intervene. The belief that adulthood begins at 18 and that parents should  "drop the rope" ignores the large body of research showing that adolescent brain development continues into emerging adulthood. A 19 year old may be a legal adult, but their prefrontal cortex (the part of the brain that performs reasoning, planning, judgment, and impulse control) is not yet fully developed. This means that they are much more likely than an adult to make poor decisions and lack the inability to discern whether a situation is safe. So no, parents should not "drop the rope" simply because a child reaches a magic number of 18. Emerging adults still benefit from parental support to help them make good decisions and assess risks. The fact that OP is looking for a way to intervene with a planned trip that will likely involve navigating lots of risky situations tells me that they he/she is a responsible parent who understands that at 19, her son is still likely to benefit from parental involvement.[/quote]

The problem for her is that[b] she can't really do anything about it if he's going to be paying for it himself[/b]. I guess she can threatened not to pay for college and see how that goes. Ibiza is also not that crazy for a 19 year old. He will party, like he is probably already doing in college. [/quote]

Really? I'm sure OP is paying for EVERYTHING ELSE, such as phone, internet, car, school, clothes, food, shelter, ect.... She can apply boundaries/rules as long as he's living at home.

I agree with PP, "Adulting" doesn't happen overnight when they turn 18.

As a parent I would not be opposed to a "road trip" somewhere or even a trip to Florida, but Ibiza? Nope! 
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