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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]For those who don’t know any divorced couples I wonder where you live.
I am in the boat of knowing very few happily married couples.

We aren’t talking about rough patches.
When you are married to an addict or an abuser the entire marriage becomes a rough patch.  And often those character flaws don’t become fully apparent until after the arrival of children.

Oh I also blame youth sports.  No one spends nearly enough time cultivating their most important relationship in this area.

We as a culture want for too much — career success, financial success, super star children, material attainment, athletic success …something has to give.

The way lives in the UMC work around here marriage hardly stands a chance.  [/quote]

People will hate this answer, but I live in a suburb of a major city (not DC) and there are a lot of SAHM’s in my region. These marriages tend to last. Is there less divorce because there is less stress in these families or is it because the wife is dependent financially and cannot easily divorce? I don’t know.

My guess is some nuance to it: It seems like educated SAHM’s who are married to a higher income earner are in the sweet spot. There are also SAHM who are married to lower income earners where I live, where both partners tend to have low levels of education, and from what I can tell from the anonymous posts on FB groups, many of these marriages are unstable with abuse, addiction, neglect, control and anger.  [/quote]

SAHMs may be more dependent financially, but they get those finances whether they stay married or divorce.

Divorce is only financially better if the combined income/wealth is so large that divorce is affordable (because at some UMC wealth level the rest of money is just for wasting not for having a decent life)[/quote]

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