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[quote=Anonymous]We experience something similar with my MIL. When she comes over, she needs everyone to be smiling and chirpy and talking to her all the time. If my DD is quiet for a few mins or starts doing something else, my MIL will ask me why she is in a off mood. She will also start pleading, "talk to meeee.."

DD is 12, introverted and does not have much in common with MIL.

I think part of it is age. MIL also has some undiagnosed anxiety, I think. She is quite needy and demands a lot of attention. I've seen other older people do this as well.

Some indulgence for senior folks is OK, I think. I do make an effort with my MIL and encourage my DD to do the same. I'll encourage her to share about her school or her artwork for example. But I also think it is healthy to set boundaries. For example, "I'd like to excuse myself for a little down time before bed, see you tomorrow," or "I'd like to read my book and have some quiet time in the afternoon, but I'll see you at dinner."

It's a important skill for kids to learn with you leading the way.

If boundaries are not respected, or not accepted, I would suggest your DH should step in and be the bad guy. "Mom, she said she would like some quiet time. Please respect her boundaries." This happened in our last visit just this past weekend!

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