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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A pp said that [b]avoidance isn't the best way to approach anxiety.[/b] That's true, but that doesn't mean you force a kid to do everything that makes them nervous. If she is anxious in general, talk to her therapist about whether meets are the thing to push right now or if there are other more important/realistic goals. If she isn't anxious in general and just doesn't like meets, then skip them -- no one has to like everything and it's ok not to do (some) activities we don't like.[/quote] I'm that PP and made a point of saying that's not necessarily relevant in this case, and that the kid should be allowed to skip meets. "Hating" meets isn't the same as feeling nervous. Where avoidance does become an issue is with, e.g., older kids who love to swim and who get nervous before meets; constantly telling them it's okay to skip isn't going to reduce their anxiety around racing. Many well-intentioned people don't understand that connection.[/quote]
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