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[quote=Anonymous]They may not know how to be good house guests. They want to see you and it sounds like they are a bit clueless yet not evil.

With people like this, you have to set boundaries, and your DH has to do it. We struggled with something similar with my ILs. We'd do a lot of "sitting around," and I just started living my life while they were here.

What's strange is that we didn't sit around in a circle at their house. They were cooking, making pies, tending the garden, etc. I'm not sure why we fell into sitting in a circle when they were at our place.

One has passed away now, and one can't travel any longer. So, figure this out sooner rather than later. The time goes quickly.

Funny thing: My MIL *just* started suggesting we do things together OUTSIDE the house only after around 25 years of visits. Sometimes, people take a long time to change. I've given her a lot of positive reinforcement.

You might need to suggest activities:

Bake cookies or cake together.
Do something in the garden.
Play a group game or board game.
Watch sports together on TV.
Get takeout.

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