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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'd make her go. Society is raising a generation of kids with no emotional fortitude. Three days is not so long that she can't see the end in sight. This is an opportunity to go to another country. [/quote]

This. And I have a kid with anxiety, so it’s not like I don’t understand.

If she has legitimate reasons, like she knows the mean girls are going to target her, then I would consider it. But if it’s just general anxiety about the whole thing, no. Resilience is incredibly important and by taking away struggles we are taking away their opportunity to grow in the face of adversity, to know that they can survive hard situations. I worry that letting her not go just confirms that you think she can’t handle it and then she internalizes that as well—if mom doesn’t think I can handle it then I definitely can’t handle it.

I have had to push my kid with anxiety over the years, past their comfort, guided through difficult situations. And they have grown so much. I have no doubt that if I let them choose to sit out of their uncomfortable situations they would unable to handle life. They agreed as well. So I would sit down and talk this through with your dd. Ask what are the specific reasons. Discuss how she can get through those things. [/quote]

I agree with this completely. I also agree with the other poster to try to set her up for success by ensuring with the school that she has a kind friend assigned as her roommate. [/quote]

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