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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I disagree with the idea that one “outgrows” their high school friends and somehow moves on.  The most impressive people I have met in my life who are truly self actualized have continued to grow and improve as people and have a gift for carrying friendships forward from all periods of their lives.  In many cases, the high school friends, college friends, graduate school friends, and work friends have blended together in an ever widening circle. There is something special about friendships that one sustains since grade school.  I really believe that.  [/quote]

Well sometimes you don’t meet your “people” in HS. I didn’t. My college friends were the ones who were in my wedding, along with friends I’d met in the workplace. I have gained  new friends in every stage of life but HS is more about surviving for many, as it was for me. My kids enjoyed HS and had a good friend circle but again the people they’ve met in college are the ones that I know are the real friends.

I would say it’s completely normal for college kids to see less and less of their HS friends. Completely normal and common.[/quote]

I agree it's normal and common but also really great if you are the person who does have those friendships that have remained good since ES/MS/HS. I don't have that. I hardly saw anyone from HS once I went to college but do have a couple college friends I'm still close with. It is easier now, however, to stay at least loosely connected with old friends through social media and texting.

DS is a junior and his college roommate is a guy he's been friends with since sometime in mid elementary school. They hang out (at college) with a couple other friends from HS (and also with new people) and when he's home that group gets together + a few other HS guys. I expect he'll move back to DC after college and continue to center his social life with this life-long friend group and I think that's great. It would also have been great if he'd met a whole new group of friends.

DD is a freshman and hasn't found her people in college yet but talks/texts regularly with her two BFFs (they have been a tight unit since 3rd grade). They are more sisters than friends now and I can see them staying in each others' lives to some degree even as they all add more new friends.

As someone who didn't find my people in high school, I'm really happy for my kids that they did find strong sustaining friendships early in life.

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+1.  Same thoughts for my son.[/quote]

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