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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would ignore her unless the comments are specifically addressed to me.  I’d also focus on chatting with non-annoying moms.  If you really can’t avoid her, I’d nicely contrast her negative attitude with a positive one.

“Ugh, you have to go into the office AGAIN?”

“I do, it might sound crazy to you, but being in the office really helps me focus/is helpful for collaboration/gets my creative juices flowing.”  This all sounds cheesy, so DIY your reason.

You’re acknowledging her implied criticism and shutting it down.

She sounds like a PITA and I’m a SAHM who would avoid her.[/quote]

Agree with this advice. I think part of the reason this is annoying you is that you actually are kind of jealous of her because it sounds like she barely has to work and has almost no time commitments. So you feel defensive because on some level you agree with her that your situation sucks and hers is ideal.

But PP here is right -- there are good things about going to the office and there are good and important jobs that cannot be done remotely. Figure out what is *good* about going into the office for you and just use it as a quick talking point the next time she does this. If it happens to subtly imply that you are better than her, oh well:

"I actually like the work/home separation -- once I leave work, I'm totally focused on myself and family and don't even check email because I can just leave it all at the office."

"I discovered during the pandemic that I don't actually love remote work. I'm not as productive and I miss people and feeling like a grown up in an office."

"My office is great though -- terrific coworkers and I have a nice view from my office. I can't find that in the suburbs."

"I listen to books on my commute. I recently worked my way through all the recent National Book Award winners -- it's been great for my cocktail conversation!"

And so on. I get where you are coming from regarding hating your commute, but if you look at it from certain angles, it absolutely has advantages. Find them and talk them up. Don't let this woman dictate the parameters of your happiness.[/quote]

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