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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Right now you’re fine bc you are busy and it’ll stay that way for years. You have kids to raise and elderly parents to watch over. Then you’ll have kids in college and you’ll hover over them - even if you don’t hover, you’ll be doing move ins, move outs, parents weekends etc so you’ll have stuff going on, great.

I do caution you about getting to a phase in life where you have nothing going on and you appear to have set up a life of cooking and cleaning. It will get old. Your kids will launch and be in a time of life where they are too busy to entertain you bc they are launching their careers or off in medical residency, not needing mom and dad moving them into their apartments. It’s easy to say oh we’ll travel then but you seem to suggest you’re not even interested in fitness. So cue maybe a trip or so every year + a whole lot of cooking and cleaning day to day. And given that you’re sooo done with corporate life now that you already aren’t in touch with it, it’s not like you can just jump back into consulting projects some 15 yrs from now. What looks sooo great now sounds like a recipe for miserable a decade or two from now. I’ve seen this movie play out over and over again. Like it or not, humans do better over time if they remain mentally engaged in something other than care taking and running the home.[/quote]
I have friends/family members who are now retired, in their 50s, and they seem to be having a great time.  I can't wait to retire at 56.[/quote]

It’s not a problem at 50 or 56. It’s super freeing at those ages to not work. It becomes a problem in the late 60s/early 70s when the cumulative effect of doing nothing for a decade+ hits and your kids are off living their own lives, not sticking around to entertain mom and dad.[/quote]

Your kids are still around at 56?[/quote]

For lots of people even if their kids aren't home at 56, they may be in college or grad school -- i.e. still needing mom and dad some when it's time to move in and out of college apartments each either; mom and dad may head up to school for parents weekend or a few football games; even if mom and dad don't visit them at school, they still plan on having kids home for a few weeks at a time in summer and winter break. All of that changes once kids launch for real. They could easily be in a new job or medical residency or something with minimal time off and they aren't necessarily spending that time off to visit mom and dad all the time, when they have their own vacations they want to take with their own friends/gfs/bfs.[/quote]

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