Reply to Go on a date while married?

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "Go on a date while married?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Pretty inappropriate, TBH.

It also sounds like cheating to me if you are having butterflies and getting excited for your date.

I mean, you know this.[/quote]

[b]They can both have butterflies as long they know to then go home and have fun with their respective spouses. [/b]
That works for a LOT of couples. 
It's just that OP expressed it in a rather provoking way. [/quote]

Reads like an attempt to justify testing the waters for a potential affair, and a setup to fall into an emotional affair even if it never gets physical.
And yes, emotional affairs are a real thing. They aren't just a "frisson" of fun to spice up your marital bedroom back home. They can do actual damage. [/quote]

Yeah, well, I've been doing this for years and no harm done. Married 20 years, kids in high school and college. Circle of good friends.

Live a little, people! You only have one life.
[/quote]

A lot of people have their “first” affair at the 20, 25, 30 year mark.  You’re not some sort of “pro” because you’ve been married for a long time.

This whole “frisson” idea to me is playing with 🔥🔥🔥🔥.  [b]When I am happy with DH, no other man can appeal to me.[/b][/quote]

This is crazy to me. I have no intention of cheating but I’m not blind. Of course I find other men sexually appealing. Do you genuinely feel no flicker of attraction at all towards anyone but your DH? [/quote]

Honestly… no, not in real life, and I’m not saying it to seem more virtuous.  I have even had crushes while married but it’s very much not-physical which I know seems weird.  I have met men that seemed very pleasant and attractive but I have not myself been attracted to them.  My husband and I had a very intense physical chemistry at the beginning of our relationship and I have just never felt anything like it for anyone else.

I guess I’m also picky- I find a lot of men that my friends think are handsome very unappealing.  I think perhaps for me a person’s character is very important to how I feel about them and someone who is flirting with me as a married woman will turn me off.  I seem to appreciate men as a concept more than reality.  During Covid I developed a crush on a colleague who I had never met in person- and when I did meet him in person the crush was instantly over.  He just lost his sparkle.  I know it’s weird but that’s just how I’m wired.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics