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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do you have kids? Four is a tough age, even if she didn't have her schedule disrupted by (possible travel and) an adult event. The parents should not have brought her, or should have left the room with her, but her antics do not in themselves mean she's a brat. Nor is it clear how spanking would help here.[/quote]

The funeral was for the grandmother of our neice, i.e. the mom of myself and all of my siblings. Bringing the granddaughter was warranted. [/quote]

I'm sorry for the loss of your mom, but your reaction here is pretty awful. Maybe you're displacing your grief into anger at this kid, but that's not okay. This kid acted out around you: she didn't do it [i]at[/i] you.

1. Kid should not have been there. She does not understand death, has no concept of solemn events, and was some combo of tired, hungry, bored, and not getting any recent attention from her grieving mom.

2. I understand why your sister, who is at her own mom's funeral, did not step outside with her kid. It would have been nice if her spouse or anyone else had done so. But, kids are a part of life and part of the family so I can see the argument for just going with it: this wouldn't have been my choice, but it's in the realm of "different strokes" rather than parenting fails.

3. Ignoring attention-seeking behavior is a valid parenting strategy, and rolling around on the floor under chairs is doesn't have to be problem unless you make it one by trying to "hold her". Again, personally if it's my kid I'd walk her outside rather than ignore, but you seem to expect a 4 yo to sit at respectful attention which is foolish.[/quote]

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