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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]By that I mean, I feel like I’m constantly thinking of my boyfriend. For example, we share a small apartment and sometimes I need to have it by myself for meetings. Occasionally the reverse happens too, like yesterday. We had made plans to go to dinner after, but as the hours ticked by, I never heard anything from him, not until the coffeee shop had closed and I’d walked around our neighborhood in the dark. When he finally did text me to check in and give me the all clear to go back to the apartment, I was annoyed, because I’m always so communicative with him when he’s out of the apartment, and always thinking about him. This is obviously just the latest thing, it’s not a standalone. I just feel this kind of thing happens all the time- he seems to think mostly of himself whereas I think of “us” and “him” much more. But I don’t know if I’m overreacting and this is a tiny thing, or maybe just what you have to expect from all men, or if I just picked a selfish one. Would love to hear from the DCUM ladies, who have much more experience dealing with men than I do, I think[/quote]

You live together so, presumably, you've been dating longer than a month or two. You both need to communicate better. I don't understand why either of you needs to leave the apt entirely, but that's beside the point.

Why don't you compare schedules? If you know he doesn't provide that information, TALK. TO. HIM. 
"What time do you need the apt to yourself today?" 
"What time will your meeting finish?"
"Text me when your meeting is finished. I'll be at the coffee shop."

Why on earth would you wander around in the dark instead of going out for a drink, or to run errands, or something of that nature? Your boyfriend communicates differently than you. You know this. Teach him how you want him to communicate, or ask more questions. [/quote]

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