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[quote=Anonymous]I saw where you say the mom has DD one day, you are taking her another day.  What is the DD doing the rest of the week?

In my situation, my ex and I (and extended family) cooperate to try to provide care for the children in weeks when there are no other options.  So I might take a day off, then he might take a day off, then his mom might take a day off, then I might take her with me one day....

So I guess if the mom is already taking one day off of work, it seems to me like she is pitching in.  It is great that your Dh is also willing to pitch in.  Not so great that this week happens to coincide with his travel.  Perhaps he should have asked a relative who does not work or hired a babysitter or simply let the ex wife know that since he was going to be out of town, he wouldn't be able to participate this time.

Maybe the ex wife took you guys at your word and is figuring that you spending a day with the child is no big   deal, or that you want to do it since, you did actually agree to do it.  Maybe she thinks it's sort of a "take your daughter to work day".

We haven't gotten to the point where his significant other has been asked or put in a position to watch or children for any extended period of time.  I think if he or they offered to do that, I actually wouldn't want to say "no" - because I wouldn't want to be perceived as a b*tch.

Can you imagine coming on this board and saying, "I just don't understand bio mom.  I have  a good relationship with my step daughter and I think it would be a great experience for her to come into my office.  I offered to take her but bio mom would rather miss work than let me spend time alione with HER child".  [/quote]

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