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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thanks again.  I have no plans to keep them out of state permanently.  I have been taking them every summer for seven weeks since kindergarten.  I like the idea of me just going for longer so he is compelled to take care of them and I can take care of my parents. But they will hate it.  They don’t have a close relationship and he feeds them sugar and unhealthy meals and no structure with video games and movies.  They will enjoy that for a few days but not for much longer.   They tell me they are still hungry on the one night a week he gives them dinner.  [/quote]

OP you need to focus on moving out and getting a custody agreement that sets all of this out. Unilaterally taking them away for months or leaving yourself is HIGHLY conflictual and not the way you want to go.

If you cannot or will not actually start the legal separation & custody process and insist on prolonging the “parallel parenting” in the same house, then you need to accept that you have to come to a compromise with him. He’s said no to 7 weeks - so you need to get to a midpoint. Ask him if 4 weeks works. You can also offer to put a temporary custody agreement in place before you go that makes clear it’s just a vacation and that you agree that your permanent residence is where he is. [/quote]

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