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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here:  Thanks for the thoughtful responses.  I have been talking to my therapist for years about this problem.  She is all about STOP doing nice things for her and not to let her treat me poorly.  My daughter tells me I give her anxiety when I approach the subject.  She is coming home later this month and I am honestly don't want to be around her.  I think my next approach is going to be to tell her I am not responsible for her happiness, nor she mine.  At the same time, I will permit her to treat me poorly.  I have suggested that she get help.....she will not.  It's her journey.
I have to let go of thinking  that I need to suck it up because I don't want to damage our future relationship!
I really thought I was a good parent.....not so much![/quote]

My DD ???  I just had a reveal this summer.  I don't care anymore!   I do regret spending so much time of my life on THEM and should have traveled to see friends etc.  I tried but it didn't work out.  Not even worth stressing myself out anymore.

When DD has her own home-apt, house, etc I would visit as a dinner guest but never hang out.  Stay in hotel if out of the area and visit if there ever is a grandchild.  Wedding and family involvement?  Wear a wonderful little black dress I already own and show up for the event.  [/quote]

I appreciate your honesty PP, but it really just makes me so sad for both you and your DD. In fact, I may be your DD based on the way you describe your feelings. I'm not blaming you, I'm really not. But I am just pretty sure my mother feels this way about me.[/quote]

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