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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I need preemptive advice, please!

They are thinking my mother will be moved into hospice care soon. Long story short, I don’t have a close, or really any, relationship with my living aunts or cousins on my mother’s side. Our relationships are cordial at best as my mother is declining. They try to insert themselves into her care, because they are notorious busybodies who care more about being in control than they care about my mother, but that’s a story for a different time.

My mother still has a house full of “stuff”. Not a hoarder by any means, but rooms full of an average amount of old furniture. There are some items of sentimental/familial value that I know these aunts/cousins will come looking to claim. My mother HAS a will, and has many things left to people in said will. But I know they will want to come poke through everything looking for more, and will disagree with me just disposing and/or donating the rest. Most things are truly worthless, and I don’t have time, energy, or desire to profit from any of it. I will make fast work of clearing her house.

So I’m pondering what to do. Do I allow them a set time on a set day to poke around for what they want, stipulating they come with Uhauls or equivalent to take it THEN? Or do I just not even invite the drama, give them just what’s stated in the will, and do what I want despite their protests? [/quote]

They get what she bequeathed to them.  If you really want to let them choose other things then I would remove everything that you want to a separate room and lock that door.  Give them two hours to choose what they want with the proviso that they take with them in that day.  Make sure you are there to supervise them.[/quote]

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