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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I organize and plan pretty much everything for my family and it doesn’t bother me.  My husband and I work FT - he’s WAH, I’m WOH - about equal hours, but he makes three times what I do.  We have three kids and share most of the housework (just hired cleaners to come every two weeks), but I do all of the cooking and he does all of the laundry.  He does a lot of the hands on parenting while I am the one enrolling in camps, organizing birthday parties, planning vacations etc.  (and also staying on top of our finances).  I’m pretty Type A and a natural planner so it really doesn’t bother me and I don’t feel bogged down by it.  I guess it’s hard for me to understand why some people feel like it’s so intolerable - it’s just part of being an adult! You would have a mental load even if it were just you![/quote]

So you have a partner who does his fair share even if it's different than what you do, and you pretend to not understand why women who do it all feel bothered?[/quote]

This is OP and I am referring specifically to those who complain about having to bear the mental load. Not those without an equal partner.[/quote]

I think the point is, there is the mental load (thinking) and the load (doing). When you have to do both the thinking and the doing, it's a lot. In your case you get to do more of the thinking because your husband is doing more of the doing. The doing HAS to get done, but when you have to do all of that PLUS do the thinking, that's when people break and complain. [/quote]

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