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[quote=Anonymous][quote]OP here. I've decided to send the pictures, only because I have to. Yes, I know the adoption is final, & have nothing to worry about. And, I am grateful that I was chosen, but does that mean I am obligated forever to let her know how I'm doing raising her biological child? I agree w/the PP's, who understand the advocacy of foreign adoptions. My thing is, if you made a decision, albeit a difficult one, to allow another family to adopt your child, then that family should be left alone to do so, without their interference. Maybe a one time photo, but this, what I believe is a "check-in or report in to" a birth family annually kind of makes you feel like they're forever a part of this, & it sucks. Thank God we didn't agree to visitation. Call me cruel, but that's how I, and many others, feel. [/quote]

ugh! OP, you're really awful.  The birth mom is not asking to even visit you - all she wants apparently is a once in a while photo (even once a yr does not sound crazy by any means - it sounds totally reasonable).  Why in the world is it SO burdensome on you to annual send a photo and a short note saying how great your child is doing to help reaffirm to the birth mom that all is well and she made the right decision.  Try some compassion!  the birthmom does not sound like the unreasonable one here.[/quote]

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