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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wow, we adopted two children internationally at seperate times, but both from the same country.  We go back every 2 years and absolutely visit their first families. They did not place their children for adoption because they didn't want them. They placed them for adoption because they couldn't care for them the way they needed to be cared for. It was a heart-wrenching decision made out of love, and both families felt horribly about it.  Please try to have a little compassion. [/quote]

As I'm sure you know, though, there are many, many children whose parents aren't quite like that.  Would you make the same family visits if your child's mother was addicted to drugs, if she had multiple child as a result of an admitted one-night stands (and gave birth only because it was the only way her parents would let her continue living with/off of them)?  If she attempted to undermine you at every turn, referring to herself as your child's real mother and you as a temporary imposter (then not showing up to scheduled meetings)?  I am, truly, glad it worked out well for you.  But please try to understand that it's easier to have "compassion" for some people.  [/quote]

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