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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The majority of people say that loving multiple romantic partners is deviant and immoral.  More people probably do it than is commonly known, but even so, I assume from reactions here and from my own life experience that most people don't do it or are very ashamed when they do.  But why?[/quote]

Why are they ashamed or why do people shame them?
My husband and I hide our other relationships from most people because most of our long term friends we met before were freaked out by it if we did confide it to them. And it actually really sucks when you've been with someone for longer than a lot of marriages and people still think of it like it's all about sex. I am not ashamed but recognize that a lot of people think it's morally wrong. So it's better not to tell them.

Why do people shame poly people? I think usually because it threatens something in them. They think it's weird, which is fine, I guess. It is not the norm. But there are a lot of things people do that are weird that don't get the same hate.

However, I don't think being poly is better than being monogamous. If you're in any long term relationship, it starts to get monotonous. That's probably why a lot of "secondary" relationships don't last as long as "primary" ones. Because they are driven by novelty. If you get past that point, you're in 2 (or more....I don't know how people do that) serious relationships. From a woman's perspective, it's a lot of emotional labor. [/quote]

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