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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I feel like DCUM often says that everyone gets 50/50, but when I look at the divorced, separated and never married families I know there is a huge variety.  I worked for many years a teacher of kids young enough that I knew the basics of custody, and it's not all 50/50. In my own family, my ex moved 1600 miles away.  We don't have 50/50.  I have niblings where mom chose to take very little time with the kids.  They don't have 50/50.

I think it's fair to say that barring major issues like abuse, or mental illness that are very well documented, if both parents live within a reasonable distance of each other, and both parents want as much custody as they can get, the court will likely order 50/50, so you might as well save your money and get to that place through mediation.  But "everyone ends up with 50/50" is a DCUM myth.  [/quote]

I think the point is that the baseline legal entitlement is 50-50. If dad wants 50-50 he’s going to get it, barring a serious issue like abuse or mental illness. (And no, the location of swim practice doesn’t trump that.) What you’re seeing is parents who did not want 50%. [/quote]

OP hasn't said whether her kids' other parent wants it, and how he has shown that.  It's also unclear when she says "worse case is he gets every other weekend" whether she means the best case is that he gets 50/50 or that he gets nothing.

I will also say that there are plenty of families who recognize that at a certain age things matter and put together schedules that let both parents see the kid a lot, and actively parent the kid, and also let the kid do the activities they want and sleep in the same place each night.  [/quote]

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