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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you don't want to share, that's fine, but I do wonder from the way you talk about it if it's all or nothing - if you can't do it all the way, at the level you did before, then you don't want to do it at all.

Are there ways to do it that aren't all encompassing?  Like, this isn't a great exmaple, but snorkeling for a while and not scuba?  Or if it's skiing, doing the greens and not the blacks because you don't want knee surgery.  Or maybe you don't jump horses, but you start trail riding or you start lessons or you volunteer at a stables or whatever.

It sounds like there are logistical hurdles - but sometimes people over inflate logistics just to say no, or their depression/anxiety over inflates logistics.  Maybe thinking there's no time limit?  So sure, you need surgery, but that's one step on the road to recovery.  And if it takes months, well, that's ok.

ALl in all, I'd encourage you to rethink and all or nothing approach in general - seeking pleasure from what is, not from what you think it should be.  And start to think of adjacent ways to get a fix of that hobby.  [/quote]

This is really helpful. Thanks.

A few years ago, I did try greens and not the blacks, to use your example. I got SO MUCH pushback from other participants because this is activity where it's clear I'm at a higher level. But maybe I need to push back at those people myself. That's a really good reminder. [/quote]

I love this, OP! Love that you are already seeing the situation through a different lens. Frankly, I'd love re-engaging in something and people could see I was really good. And if you get pushback, just shrug and say something like: I'm certainly not where I was, but it's just good to be back doing X. And you love to see so many others who also love what you love. (That's the super nice version, when really I would want to say, Back off, batches.)[/quote]

Batches  :lol:  :lol:  Clearly auto-correct was helping me out.[/quote]

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