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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I really think it makes the most sense to consider what makes the most sense for the kids given their schedules (sports, therapy, school, etc), the locations and schedules of the parents, and any family traditions (e.g., vacations, visiting family, holidays).  Then calculate the split.

Don't make it 50/50 with a 14 yo who is into competitive swim but who has a parent who lives too far away to take the son to swim practice.  Find a way to give both parents time without imposing on the child.  That's takes cooperation and putting aside your issues, but really is how it should work.[/quote]

Regardless it should be 50-50.  Don't take away your child's other parent just to spite them.  You aren't putting aside your issues if you are saying don't do 50-50.  Or, you can do it where the other parent lives and you can do the commute.[/quote]
No.  A kid can't be on two different swim teams.  And practices for competitive swimmers are really early before school, so commuting may not be an option.

A kid shouldn't have their life blown up even more because their parents are divorcing.  Tweens and teens have their own interests and schedules.  For older kids it may end up being 50/50 of the kid's free time when they're not in school or at sports/activities, rather than 50/50 overall custody.  Or the parent can find a way to live closer to accommodate.  The schedule has to be about the needs of the kids, not some arbitrary formula.[/quote]
The swim team example is from a prior DCUM thread, not my own life, but it is generally applicable.  If kids have goals and priorities, the custody rules should be used as a barrier.  Parents should support their kids, not use them as weapons to get back at their ex or to keep from paying more child support while doing the bare minimum.[/quote]

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