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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It is what it is. Yes,[b] let him know that 1) you know he doesn’t care for recitals and 2) DD will notice that he comes to her brother’s games but not her events, & will probably be disappointed. And then let him do with that what he will - he can make his choice.[/b]

You can’t protect DD from realizing, at some point, that she is not the favorite. And it’s ok - sounds like she has multiple grandparents, so that is nice. Honestly it is not a huge deal, just like learning you are not every teacher’s favorite, or that a coach prefers other kids over you - kind of those lessons that everyone experiences. I think you are feeling it more because you experienced it on a more serious level - you felt this from your dad, which IS a big deal.

So - DD will be fine. I’m sorry you are experiencing this pain again. [/quote]

This. My DD is in competitive dance and my parents can act like it's pure torture. This is how I handle it. Acknowledge that it's not the most convenient activity, but I don't lie to them when they ask if they think she will care if they don't come. Especially since she has another set of grandparents that won't miss anything, no matter how inconvenient. She notices, how can she not? But it's not my job to make them feel better about sitting at home doing absolutely nothing than supporting their granddaughter.

Twice, they have straight up told me they weren't going to come when she had ONE routine at a set time (so not having to sit through tons of other routines) because they didn't like the parking situation at the venue ... ok, that's a choice you've made, but you can't pretend like there might not be repercussions from it. My DD asked why they didn't come and I told her why.[/quote]

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