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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Can your parents leave all their estate to her? I would recommend you suggest they do that and tell them you and brother will not be able to financially support her since you have your own families to take care of. Be very firm about this. [/quote]

PP here. Why?! You think the deadbeat sibling won’t burn through the money and then you’re back where you started.

Why should PP give up any chance of an inheritance? That is ridiculous. So the other sibling can suck every single penny from their parents all the way to the end?! [/quote]

It is not fair, but with the inheritance comes the expectation to take care of the sibling. In fact, if they voice that they won’t take care of sibling, parents may just leave the estate to her anyway.

[b]OP and productive sibling will be happier just washing their hands of it[/b]. Maybe youngest sib can live off the inheritance for a while and if she understands that there is no more money coming, she might get her act together. [/quote]

And you know this, how? I am a PP with a freeloader brother. If my parents choose to leave everything so be it, but it would be very offensive to my kids, their only grandchildren. I have been firm I am not taking care of him, and if they left anything to me or my kids I would have zero expectation to fund anything for him. Telling OP to tell their parents to just leave everything to the freeloader is just one more enabling thing on top of another.

Unless you have a freeloading sibling you will not understand.[/quote]

I am one of the pps recommending this and I do have a freeloader sibling. My sibling is unmarried and got everything. I can choose to be offended or move on with my life. [/quote]

Super glad it worked out for you but for my situation I don’t agree. And that’s ok. [/quote]

Yes, you’ll have to see what happens when your parents die. [/quote]

No matter what happens, my brother will come to me for money. And whether or not my mother leaves me or my children any, I will tell him no. So if you're hoping to say "I told you so" it won't matter. My brother is an a-hole, who I have stupidly given money to in the past. Never again, regardless of what happens in the future. [/quote]

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