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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here, to answer questions. They are fully financially dependent on us as they work for the family business.

I'm not a Martha Post kind of person, but the examples are:

Married with kids and will only attend events that are fully paid by us or other family members. They never offer to pay and [b]never say thank you[/b]. Other family members will no longer invite them to events as a result.

They [b]speak loudly about money all the time[/b]. So much so that family members also are fully aware that they cannot be trusted when it comes to matters of inheritance.

They don't give small courtesy to others. Whether it's answering a simple question or giving people notice of something they have to plan for they just don't.

They [b]cut people off[/b] very quickly without provocation. Just one day they are no longer speaking to BIL that lives behind them (been going on 2+ years now).

That is the problem of working for the family business. They've been coasting, never had to work with other people in a position where their value to the organization is judged nor felt the need to be with a [b]team player or leader. They are in a special category where they can get away with behaving badly without consequence.[/b]

In other words, it's just total lack of generosity in life. It's always about what they can get out of someone. Now that I wrote it out it sounds like just a total lack of desire to reciprocate relationships and just a very taker kind of attitude.[/quote][/quote]

This isn’t manners. It’s character. And TBH he sounds like an a$$
Any didn’t you course correct it when he was 17? Short of a massive life changing event, I doubt he will change his ways which have been condoned - by you and your family - for a long long time.

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