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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My mother passed away last week.  In her will she specifies her wishes as far as cremation and what to do with her ashes, and that money from her estate be used to fly in certain relatives, funeral expenses, and for a meal after her funeral.

I am the only local family member who is an adult and am not able to host at my home, and it doesn’t seem that her church does this, so U am thinking of inviting people to her favorite restaurant.

But I need a headcount.  How do you decide who to invite?  Do you ask people to RSVP?  Anyone done this?

I can’t just stand up and say “everyone who wants to come over” because I need a number.[/quote]

My condolences on your loss.  I was recently in the same position for my father-in-law.  We held a fairly private funeral (though they are never truly "private" of about 40 people.  The repast was at a local Irish bar/restaurant, and it was a buffet.  There was no room rental fee, and we just paid for what people ate, and they brought out more trays of food as needed.  Plus an open bar.  It was really nice, though not fancy.  We handed out programs at the ceremony with details of where to go for lunch afterwards.

In my hometown, funerals were more of an all-comers event, with the entire parish showing up.  But the repast was potluck in the church basement, and everyone just seemed to "know" that they should bring a dish to share.  Lots of hotdish and jello molds.  [/quote]

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