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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It really irks me when people brag about not having too many activities or not over scheduling as if you can just magically control how an activity evolves.

My kids are each in ONE activity (a sport) but as they get in high school, the number of commitments for that one activity have just exploded. Practices every single day after school. Games several days a week (including weekends). Tournaments (usually out of town requiring hotels, super expensive and sometimes kids even have to miss some school). It never ends.

Mine don’t do an instrument or robotics or volunteer or have a job (I wish). They can’t. These club and school sports want more more more more time and money. My kids love their sports, their teams and playing. One is at an elite level and the other is just ok at their respective sports. But the amount of time is almost the same.

There is no fun for parents. I am so exhausted. And broke. [/quote]

You absolutely can control this. [/quote]

Exactly how since you have the answer? I’m sincere here. I’m supposed to tell my kid they can’t be on the varsity basketball team when it’s the only activity they have?

I have carpools and an active partner who also does driving. So just how do I control this?  I didn’t allow my kids to do ice skating or ice hockey when they were young bc of the hours but all sports in high school are crazy IMO. Maybe I have a low threshold. But like I said people make these “yes you can” statements and that’s it, yeah, wish it was so easy. [/quote]

I think your dilemma is you have one kid where you can see the payoff from the time and cost, and one kid where honestly the club sports are just money down the drain.  Do you think kid B understands that they aren't getting recruited?  Obviously, kid B could just play HS basketball and AAU is off the table.

I understand your dilemma.  I guess my only advice is that the #1 regret I hear from parents is how much they wish they had forced their "non-recruited" athlete to own up to reality earlier and work on developing other interests.[/quote]

PP here. So you suggest I treat my children differently and only support the one who plays at an elite effort and tell my other kid we aren’t supporting her because she isn’t good?! I’m playing the long game here with my children so that they build good self esteem and want a loving, long term relationship with both of them. Playing favorites is not something I’m willing to do.

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So then why are you on here complaining?  Did you think the answers to your problems were some kind of magic?

Sorry, there are answers...but no good answers.  It would appear that your non-elite kid maybe doesn't accept or appreciate they aren't elite.

I had some sympathy for you before, and now I have none.  [/quote]

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