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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, When one of your parents ends up in the hospital  you need to make sure that parent is routed to a nursing home or assisted living directly upon release.
Be really firm with the hospital social worker.

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THIS!!!  THIS!!!

OP, this! I'm in a similar situation-my sibling lives far away and I am close by, but not with them. I feel strongly that my own dc needs to have their own space to be a child yet. And I work full time with a long commute. Anyhow, my parents have been resistant to help in the home-don't want 'strangers' in the house-but I've had to get hardnosed about it. I've had to accept that they will feel results of poor choice making. Meaning, there will be another fall that will require the hospital. Last time, they refused for Dad to go to rehab and the hospital promptly called me at work to get him! If my sib hadn't happened to be visiting (scheduled visit before the fall), I would not have been able to even get him in the house. That is NOT happening again-I've had to formulate a plan in my head to ensure that he will go where he needs to go, or to have the needed help at home arranged. They actually did agree to one day a week help for him to bathe, which has gone well.

This is a lot easier to say than to actually have to do...

Anyhow, OP, you do need to prioritize your own life and family. Do what you can to make their home as safe as possible, get on their  hippa paperwork with the drs so you can talk to them. Are you POA? Will your folks subscribe to a life alert type service? Do you know where their list of meds is (in case of er visit, it's good to know how to find this). These things help. I do what I can, which is see them daily, help around the house, go to some but not all appts. I've also picked Dad up more than once but sometimes I have to call for lift assistance. I *cannot* move in, do full time care or pay for that on my own. Sibling cannot simply leave his career and life either-that's not fair or possible. So we do what we can, and that's what it will be. It's hard OP, I get it![/quote]

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