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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]
I mean, why are you so tired? Is the baby colicky? You have other children? At 4 months you really should not be haggard with 1 kid.[/quote]

It’s our first and only child so far so we are getting used to being new parents. I thought that was pretty standard for first time parents as a new baby?

My point was that my MIL felt it necessary to ask my husband why HE is so tired behind my back which has passive aggressive undertones to it otherwise why not just ask him in front of me? Why ask him behind his wife’s back.

Again she didn’t seem to care after my well being when I had a very difficult pregnancy and then all the pain I was in from the long labor but get her son who didn’t go through one iota of that all of a sudden mommy needs to check up on him and make sure his wife is doing her part. [/quote]

Yes, of course it's fine/normal to feel tired when your first child is barely out of the newborn phase. (The poster above was just trying to get in a dig and feel a wee bit superior about the ease of parenthood for him/her.)

However, you need to decide, especially given your husband has your back and is unbothered, that her little quips and questions don't matter a bit. My MIL rightly thinks my DH does more. The few days a year she visits he actually does do more. I happen to do more the other 360 days a year. But, I realized it doesn't matter what she thinks. It matters if the visits go okay and they get nice time together, which happens more if I'm scarce. As the babe gets older, use her visits as a good time to get a real break and don't worry what she says or thinks. It really doesn't matter.[/quote]

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