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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It would be easier to follow if you just told us what happened this time OP.[/quote]

We have a 4 month old son and MIL recently came to visit from 2 hours away and said her son looked really tired. And called him later on to question why he looks so tired almost as if we don’t have a freaking 4 month old child at home.

Again not her business. We alternate nights with the baby pretty much to a T. But again even if I was being “unfair” it’s still not my MIL’s business to go behind my back and hint around to her son to check up on him to make sure I’m “doing my job.”

Her son is a grown married man and a big boy with a mouth of his own. If there were issues he is more than capable of speaking to me himself. Not having mommy swooping in as super woman to try and protect him from being a father and save him from his evil unfair wife.

This isn’t the first time she has tried to pull this shit.

My husband did the right thing by telling her mom. “Yes of course I’m tired I have a 4 month year old son but so is OP and you don’t seem to care about her well being. Please stop questioning how things are done in our household I’m a big boy.” And she did stop but of course after saying, “I’m your mother I’m just looking out for you.”

Funny how she didn’t seem to notice or care after I was in labor for hours on end and when I was super sick during my pregnancy and she didn’t check up to see if her son was doing enough to help take care of me.

Which my husband was amazing through this whole thing.[/quote]

OP, you must be very tired caring for a 4 month old.  And I can see why this would be annoying.  But your reaction seems outsized.  Your husband handled it beautifully.  Soon, you should counsel him to handle the situation as he did, but *not* report back the details to you.  It does not sound like he needs your report and telling you these details brew unnecessary drama.[/quote]

I agree 100% that it’s not necessary for my DH to tell me when his mother makes passive aggressive remarks against me. I did also add she continues to do it bc clearly he isn’t shutting it down fast enough.

If he said, “mom my marriage and how we handle our child is not your business or up for discussion” and then immediately changing the subject the behavior would be nipped in the bud.[/quote]

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