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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Devil's advocate here. I work in development (not in a private school), and while we always send thank yous to donors who direct contributions from DAFs, the paperwork that comes from some of these is murky and in some instances makes it sound as if no thank you should be sent. We know of course, that there's nothing wrong with ever saying thank you, but it can be confusing. Remember, that money was not yours. You gave it to a DAF and got your deduction. Now you can say where you want it to go, in most cases, but it wasn't yours anymore. Just another point of view. DAFs are the scourge of fundraisers. [/quote]

This. I have a role in this for a volunteer org and I'm confused by DAF's.

But generally support the org or don't.  Don't a demanding jerk over a TYs that are not need for tax purposes.
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Nobody is being a demanding jerk over a thank you.  My donations are charity and there are thousands of other places it can go.[/quote]

Again, OP, not your donation anymore. You wanted to use a DAF, probably to offset some capital gains or use it some other way to save on taxes in one year. Now you give away small gifts from that over the years and want to demand these thank yous. I am sure that school will be happy for you to take your money and your kid elsewhere.

As an aside, while my private did pretty routinely send thank yous--and we gave 6-figures (one 7-figure to a capital campaign), one time I got the form letter with the obligatory hand-written "Thanks" from the head--but he added, "so great sitting with you at dinner the other night." He had actually been seated with my 83-year-old MIL. Bad form to not know who you're thanking. Nonetheless, I do know how busy dev staff are and what a demoralizing job it can be, especially with small donors like OP who are unforgiving of mistakes, so I said nothing, of course. [/quote]

I mean a DAF contribution is still a contribution from the original donor.  To say otherwise is absurd.  They control the money.

And your story of giving well over 1M to a school and the headmaster not even knowing who you are is obscene.  If they can’t figure out who their large donors are, this seems like a sign of a poorly run organization.[/quote]

Obscene? :lol: [/quote]

Haha so disrespectful to give over a million and then be confused for someone else entirely.  And then to not say anything at all lol.  Grow a pair.[/quote]

Def obscene. With lots of !!!!!!s

!!
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