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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Let me start by saying she's a nice person, and my oldest and my other sister's kids love her, but she's  soon to be 40, single, makes good money and no kids so she just doesn't understand things.

Like she just asked if my sister and I would be interested in doing a summer trip with the family, she's thinking of Italy, and Spain. Australia or New Zealand  or we could go to Hawaii if  we wanted to stay in the States. She's going to pay for everything including two nannies for us. She just wants to do something special for  her birthday, and we haven't traveled as a family in years. She doesn't get that as a mom of a 3-year-old and a 8 month old this trip wouldn't be relaxing for me, or our sister with older kids  She doesn't get that our nieces and nephew have activities and maybe want to do camps or hang out with friends and not aunts for half the summer.  Her solution when I mentioned this was that she'd hire some nannies to give us a break and could hire someone to help us pack. I can tell she was disappointed when I said no, I don't like disappointing her, but I wish she could just be a little more realistic sometimes.[/quote]

Figure it out.  This sounds awesome.  I would not go to Australia, but a flight to Europe is fine with kids, I take them frequently.  It is good for kids to learn young to get used to things like that.  My close friend has 1 year old twins and they live in Australia.  Her family lives in the US, her husband's family is in Turkey.  Her kids have come to the US 2x first 12 months of life and Turkey 1x. When they come to the US they visit west coast, Arizona, and the East Coast.  They also flew to Germany to visit another relative. Her kids are easy travelers now.  I took my son to Europe when he was a little over 1 year old, super easy and in European time I kept him on the same schedule so instead of bed at 6:30PM he went to bed at 11:30PM.  Easy peesy.  That meant he woke up later, but that was fine.

The older kids can miss a week of activities to go to Europe!  There must be a period where they have a break.

Just find a place that is accessible by plane.  If you dont want kids to go could you ask in laws to watch and you and sister go for a long weekend with other sister? It isn't pushing your kids off on other people but your kids need to be comfortable being with people other than you or you'll have issues when they get older.  My spouse and I flew to Paris for 2 nights (overnight flight and then morning flight on 3rd day) and it was totally fine.  In laws watched the kids.  You could do something like this, but just the sisters.

Your sister has probably showed up to every shower, wedding, baby birthday you had.  Do something for her.

Azores, Caribbean, Bermuda, Paris, London, Spain.  We just went to the Biltmore in Phoenix and it was very family friendly, but also had an adults only pool, great spa, fitness center, golf, biking, yoga and workout classes, and great restaurants.  BUT the flight was almost as long as to Europe...

I have a single 40 something sister who does not have her life together, is a mooch and expects all of us to cover her.  Be grateful you have such an awesome sister!  If you are worried about the kids leave them at home and do a sisters weekend somewhere in Europe. Go to Paris spend all your day walking, drinking wine, and eating croissants!  [/quote]

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