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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I’m not smug. My kids are getting older and she’s going to have to back off. I have two SILs in the same position as my sister who do not behave this way. They live our kids but have boundaries and my MIL doesn’t drag them along every time she visits. My sister doesn’t think boundaries apply to her. I do not think she should be relying on me and my family to provide that experience for her because she decided to throw in the towel on dating. Do some here think I should invite that?[/quote]

We get it. You're special and important because you managed to catch a man and get married. Your nuclear family is now the most important and unique thing in the world. A family member who wants to spend time together must want to live vicariously through you because she can't get a man, because you're so amazing, and you accomplished the one thing in life that a woman is meant to do.[/quote]

Nailed it. I don’t understand though, who wouldn’t want more people to help care and love on their children? [/quote]

Having been in the position of the OP, the issue is not more help with the kids. It’s overstepping boundaries. The parents invited the sister to stay at someone else’s house without asking. Now the OP has to host additional people for a week and wasn’t consulted if that was how she wanted to spend her time and money. Family closeness is NOT an excuse for lack of boundaries. When this happens repeatedly, it feels like everyone expects you to fulfill their needs and they don’t actually care about your needs. [/quote]

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