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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My spidey sense says that OP is still in the grips of sibling rivalry. She wants all of Mom and Dad‘s attention and is mad when (pretty, financially successful) sister is there, because Mom and Dad are not completely focusing on her and her kids. I mean she deserves it, right? Because she did things the right way, caught a man, got married, and had kids? [/quote]

OP here. Oh lord, no way. I moved a plane trip away from them to keep my sanity. [/quote]

PP here and now I’m really confused. You live a plane ride away from both your parents and your sister? But you still have too much contact with her and she’s a fixture in your kids’ lives?[/quote]

They are retired and fly out for extended visits and bring her. She can work remotely and just brings her laptop. We’ve let her stay with us but we’ve asked her to break up the days and stay at a hotel because she stays for more than a week and it’s too much. [/quote]

So they are stopping by for swim meets, etc., and they’re a plane ride away? This is very odd. If your sister came to visit on a plane, then of course you don’t exclude her from the little stuff that happens when she’s there. Why on earth would you expect her to stay at home while the rest of the family goes out to a swim meet?

OP, you are way too invested in your story about what your sister should be doing with her life. We get it, you think she’s emotionally stunted, too enmeshed with your parents, and is too clingy with your family.

But her emotional development, her life choices, and her relationship with your parents is absolutely none of your business. You can draw boundaries for what happens with your own family, but please at least try to conceal your utter scorn for her life choices. If you can, fake love and respect.

And if she needs to get onto a plane to stalk you, and only comes when your parents are visiting, how often is this actually happening anyway?[/quote]

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