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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You are so judgmental. How is it the easy way out for her to accept, with what must be sadness and maturity, that she is going to be stepping away from creating her own nuclear family? I can't imagine my sister feeling the way you do. [/quote]

She’s taken it to the extreme. My kids should not be her plan. I’ve watched this go down for the last 20 years. She’s been”accepting” is since college. Her situation is not an accident. [/quote]
OP, she may have emotional problems. My sister who did started going off the deep end did so after 40. Youth was over and she hadn’t made anything of her life, lots of failures. I think she just couldn’t cope, and also I think she had always had psychological problems, but they became more obvious at that age. She ended up retreating and hiding from people. Some people are not very resilient and have a hard time in life. They don’t have the same inner resources as the rest of us. This is why she’s close to your parents. Think about it, this is her family. This is all she has. There have probably been signs that she may not be able to establish her independence for a long time and she’s always expected you to be her sort-of mate. My sister did this and I had to move on. Your parents know that she doesn’t have many options and are sympathetic to her. It’s possible she’ll meet someone, but if she’s like my sister, she’ll sabotage it. You will be dealing with this for a long time, so I would get help for it. [/quote]

Often in this situation the parents created the dependency.[/quote]

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