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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here, thank you for your responses! My parents and in laws grew up in large families (5-7) and all speak fondly of their childhoods. With the exception of one out of 20 none had large families themselves. So I always wondered about the disconnect. If it was & is amazing why did everyone choose less? So I thank you for your insight![/quote]

OP, some PPs have given personal explanations, but I have some additional guesses:

Societal pressure.  It's not easy being countercultural.  Without a ton of support, it's hard to welcome children as blessings, as they come.

Lack of a depth of faith.  If you don't know why you're open to life, it's easy to bail when things get tough.

Materialism.  Not just for stuff and vacations, but also for school.  There's a deeply ingrained idea that parents are responsible for college, but that's pretty new.  It's hard to stand up to that idea.  And for lower grades, there's the assumption that expensive private school is the only way to get a quality education--not true!

A negative birth culture.  When women experience birth as healthy, normal, and enjoyable, they are more likely to look forward to repeating it.

Living outside the box.  This kind of falls under social pressure, but [b]it's hard driving a big van and living a big family lifestyle and generally looking foolish to everyone all the time.[/b]

The ingrained idea that you have children when you are ready because they are fun.

Fundamentally, this is a question of why we are here, what is love, what is marriage for, what does sex mean?  the generally accepted answers to these questions do not conform to large families.

So sad.[/quote]

:lol: You make it sound like driving a bus full of clowns. Or maybe a clown car with clowns.[/quote]

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