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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am just like you op and I'm trying to change.  I come across like a controlling buzzkill because I can be very rigid, especially when I'm tired.  I don't like my kids in my room after 9:00 during the week and I tell them that explicitly.  But I also realize that my 12 yo will be out of the house in 6 years and I'm trying to savor the time.  You said the kids were distracting you not that you were concerned about their sleep, so be honest about your motivation.  Do you have a good relationship with them otherwise?[/quote]

OP here. this is a fair question.  It's actually the distracting noise that bothered me (okay with the kids skirting past bedtime and having fun with mom), and then DW blaming me vs. owning up to the fact that she invited them into our room past our bed time and simply saying something like "sorry, today ran long, I'll send them to bed".

I am not allowed to play a certain podcast audibly anywhere in the house at any time because of the sound of one of the hosts that makes her skin crawl I guess - its a boundary she has set that I respect (and so I use my AirPods when listening to them).  I'll admit that I was annoyed that a "noise" based boundary was breached when I always respect the one she has asked for.

There are a lot of other very helpful posts here and I going to reflect more on the general suggestion to lighten up.  I see where that is coming from.  I do not believe the kids are going to bed too early though, and I also believe social media screen time right before bed is bad for everyone, especially kids.  I don't quite get the comments that its supposed to be my job to send them to bed when its was DW who brought them up to our room after their bed time (and the pre-bed routine I did of brushing and humidifier).  Lots of salty women here I guess.[/quote]

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