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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The fact is this teacher is grooming students. The principal will only protect the staff. You are naive to believe your letter will be welcome. [b]You will go on the “trouble-maker” list. [/b]Perhaps consult a lawyer friend.
[b]Get to know the other parents so eventually you can compare notes about this teacher’s grooming actions.[/b] Definitely tell your daughter  the teacher has NO business rubbing her back, other even touching her in any way.
Did other students see this, or does the teacher do it in private? Does he do it to other students? 
Just fyi, pedophiles tend to target children with absentee fathers. What he did to you was a HUGE red flag. [b]This wasn’t the first time he’s tried to groom the mother of a student he’s been inappropriately touching.
Keep your radar on high alert.[/b]
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All of this. We had a similar situation. Tried to raise the issue w school, and it quickly became clear that I was seen as a troublemaker. I began to doubt myself (after all, nothing illegal had happened, maybe I was just being crazy, maybe my kid was just difficult, other kids liked this teacher, and besides, what if I’m wrong, an accusation like this is not something to throw around casually, this could ruin his life and maybe it’s nothing, etc etc). I made sure my kid never went to talk to him alone, but I also backed off. Turns out all sorts of other parents had concerns, though I didn’t know this until later.

A year or so later, he raped a different student and was eventually arrested. He’d groomed the mom, as well as the child. Made the mom believe he was on her side, an ally at a time when she really needed one. The kid was 13. He was…60?

Every day I wish I’d been louder, less hesitant.

Trust those instincts. Yes, they’ll call you a troublemaker. Don’t let them make you doubt yourself. Keep talking. Keep asking questions. Pay attention. Read about grooming — the little jokes, the bonding, the way predators play kids off of one another, etc. Document everything.

Good luck. [/quote]

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