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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I, a male, initiated our divorce and it was years coming and I waited until we became empty nesters and for my children to understand why, which they did. My ex was always in a state of anger and took it out on the kids first and then on me. I had plenty of time to prepare and I announced it and moved out within two days to a place I had rented. She wanted to make the divorce ugly but our kids told her I was doing the right thing and if she made it ugly they wouldn’t speak to her. There was no infidelity at least on my part, just years of frustration. That was three years ago and I’m happy and my kids live with me when they are visiting. [/quote]

Sounds like she was cheating, no?  Kids won’t usually stop talking/staying with their mother..[/quote]

I don’t think so, but I don’t really care. If you are a teenager and your mother is angry and yelling all the time wouldn’t you want out. They do speak with her now but rarely visit her. Her anger is still there. [/quote]

I applaud you, PP. My mom was like your ex but my dad never would have initiated a divorce because of his religion and probably because he just didn't feel like he had the time or energy for it. My mom asked for the divorce and everyone, including my dad, agrees that it was for the best.

And to other moms out there who yell a lot: I am 99.999% sure you aren't like my mom! I don't believe in yelling and I don't yell at my kids, but doing so doesn't automatically make you a bad mom. My mom's anger and yelling was toxic, abusive, and truly emotionally damaging. I love my mom but I really cannot believe she did what she did to her own children, and men with wives like my mom should initiate divorces. [/quote]

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