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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]But my kids weren't a breath away from an anxiety disorder and are happy people. I think that's worth more than going to a higher-ranked college.[/quote]

OP here.  I don’t think that was the choice.  My kids were probably going to be happy either way.

The realization that I have come to is that I traded opportunities to improve my kids chances for easier weekends and less hectic weeknights.

At the time I didn’t realize that’s what I was doing - but that’s what I did.

If we had pushed math more would they have had a better chance at UVA and Michigan- almost certainly.

If we had done travel sports I don’t know if they would have played in college but they would’ve almost certainly made the highschool baseball team.

In the plus side I did have a lot more in the 529s than I would have if I pursued additional opportunities.

What gets me is I thought we were already doing a lot. We sat with them while they did their homework., they were always on a team I even coached a couple of their  teams early on.

For the posters, who were saying that life’s a marathon, and not a sprint. I think you’re missing the point.  A parent’s  strategy is open as many doors as possible.  It’s up to them to choose the door.  I think the net results of not pushing harder in sports and academically was there fewer doors for them to go through[/quote]

OP, if every parent is doing what you suggest, then your kid still probably wouldn't get into those schools because, well, there's not enough room in their classes for every kid. It's a crapshoot.

I'm sorry you're disappointed your kid didn't get into what you consider a better school. Just don't let them know of your disappointment because that is something they'll never forget.

I work at a fairly prestigious organization and a lot of my colleagues making the highest salaries (if that is your main criterion for success in life) did not go to T50 schools.[/quote]

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