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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes, your feelings are founded.  He doesn't get to rest at night while you work.  Train him better. [/quote]

Well said!

I was one of those women who dreamed about happy-ever-after. Slowly it dawned on me that my husband's idea of marriage was an assumption that marriage meant that I did all of the "women's work" while he did what he wanted. That included doing the manly chores, but he spent unlimited funds on his toys, such as power tools, fishing boats, and hunting gear. He went fishing and hunting with his friends on the weekends. I enjoyed cooking and having time for myself on the weekends. All went well enough, for a while.

As the years went on, he became busier at work and I took care of all the homemaking duties, including taking care of the kids and paying the bills. He would ask for an accurate account9ng of household funds at random times and questioned me if I went over his budget. He would pat me on my ass and tell me that I was doing a good job.

When he was home in the evenings, he wanted to relax after work while I cooked, cleaned, and helped with homework. The kids adored him. He was always the fun parent who watched TV with them. He didn't remind them to clean their rooms or do homework.

He frequently praised me in front of others and said that I was such a great wife and mother. He gave me gifts like expensive vacuum cleaners, bar-b-que grills, fish smokers, and sexy clothes. One time he patted my ass in front of our friends and the game was over.

I don't know why it took me so long to divorce him, but when it came time to talk about alimony, I told him that I didn't want a cent and would be happy to never have to depend on him, ever again, for anything. Thirty years later, we still see each other at family events that include children and grandchildren. He remarried and I'm happy to be free.

Your concerns are valid, and I hope that you gain some insight from my experience. [/quote]

:shock: [/quote]

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