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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think you could look at this another way, OP.  Most straight men really aren’t trying that hard to be attractive.  I mean, this chart wouldn’t have the same curve for gay men, right?  
So, if you can do the kinds of things gay men do to be attractive and get yourself to a 6-7, then you will be in the top 2-3% of straight men!  [/quote]

+1. This chart is a joke but does reflect some accurate opinions. But people aren't responding to innate attractiveness, it's the whole package. A very beautiful woman who dresses poorly, has a bad haircut, and poor hygiene, will not be rated as highly as the same woman in decent clothes with a good haircut and good hygiene.

A lot of men walk around with bad clothes that don't fit, bad haircuts or badly in need of a haircut, and subpar hygiene. Women don't find them attractive because they are putting zero effort into making women find them attractive. Even just the effort itself is attractive, because it signals to others that you think of yourself of worth of basic self-care, and that you are interested enough in dating that you are willing to spend 40 minutes in a dressing room twice a year to make sure your pants actually fit.

I'd say about 90% of men could improve their attractiveness rating in a week or less by simply putting in a little more effort. But men are socialized to believe that taking care of your appearance is "effeminate." Truly, toxic masculinity is holding y'all back. Guess what, all the "ruggedly handsome" men you idolize put a ton of effort into their appearance. [/quote]

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