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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You all are missing the point of the posters who say it sucks for women to do what OP is doing. No one is saying OP shouldn't take her maternity leave or quit if that's what's best for her family. OF COURSE women have every right to do that. Without question. What sucks is that this impacts all women of child-bearing age in the workforce. EVERY employer is wondering if a woman is going to have kids and quit. They wonder about it during the interview, they wonder about if the woman gets married, and they wonder about it the second the woman discloses that she's pregnant. It would be foolish of employers NOT to take that possibility seriously because it happens so often. That means that women who do plan on returning, or who never plan to have kids, have to deal with these assumptions. You get treated as though you're not serious about your job because it's assumed you won't stick around for the long haul. You aren't viewed as a team player. It can take a lot to overcome that thinking. For those women who want to continue working, it can be difficult. This is not to say that women shouldn't be given maternity leave or be prevented from quitting once the leave ends but there is a cost to be paid for it--and the women who stay in the workforce are paying it.[/quote]

This is such a dumb, crabs in a bucket argument and I do not understand why people keep rolling it out.

Say you have a super high achieving man on your team. Superstar. Rainmaker. And then he quits and gives no notice and goes to the higher paid firm down the street— right after banking his big bonus.

Does literally ANYONE say to him “hey you shouldn’t do that because it makes people more wary about hiring men and it makes it harder on men here in the office so I’m not saying you shouldn’t quit just that there’s “a cost to be paid” and other men are paying it”

Of course not. Because that’s stupid.

All that is is misogyny wrapped up in the language of capitalism. Ignore everything about it. The economy cannot function without women in the workplace. You are not doing anyone any harm no matter how much better it is for company x’s bottom line if you believe otherwise.[/quote]

This is different.  Men and women equally can do the scenario you stated, so no one is biased against men or women because of this reason.  But leaving after having a baby?  That's a 99% female response.  How many men do you know that quit their job after their first kid?

The solution is to get men to stay home as often as women so that anyone of childbearing age is an equally risky employee, but that's not easy.[/quote]

No it’s really not different, people want you to think it is and that you’re held to some kind of a special moral standard to represent all working women.

It is 2024. A company that treats a woman differently because she may become pregnant is breaking the law. That’s all. Women don’t need to behave differently or tiptoe around making the best choices for our families to protect literal criminals thanks. [/quote]

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