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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I agree with most advice that this is a phase and it is normal. One on one time together is indeed important. As long as they have a healthy amount of that, which is sounds like, that's normal. However, this is a bit of a warning flag:

"What's even odder is sometimes they'll plan to do things together and if I want to join she sounds surprised. ... I asked to come along and her reaction was almost as if she didn't want me to come along!"

You and DH have to discuss this and agree to be a united front - DD will NOT be consulted about you attending anything, nor be allowed to purposefully exclude you. You should not be asking her permission to be included - you are her mother. A 10-year-old should not be given this much say in her parents'/family relationship to purposefully exclude you.  
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Well, there is something about the only child dynamic that adds another layer. Going with just dad or just mom enabled her to feel a little more grown up - depending on age, you get to sit in the front seat, help pick the music, etc. I think there is a need there, that is not felt the same as kids with siblings - they always have company in the backseat, a kids-vs-parents dynamic. Only kids don’t have that, & I think crave that one on one time more.

OP, as others have said, you are lucky. Take advantage of it & enjoy some self care, do things for yourself, etc. The tides will turn at some point in the future & you will be back to the favorite. I think  just try to keep emotional maturity - you 3 are a family, but you all also have individual relationships. And that is really positive, don’t be jaa way aloud…it all goes up & down over the years. [/quote]

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