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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I should add that it is incredibly selfish of her that she does not want to contribute his retirement income to his care, after he worked hard to support the entire family plus her mother for decades. All because she wants to continue an unsustainable living situation for herself.[/quote]

You need to stop thinking that way, OP. She's just not in her right mind. German law does not force YOU, a foreigner living on foreign soil, to pay a cent. So you're going to let German regulations take their course. The uncle takes guardianship of his brother, which is great, because his brother's money can then be used for his nursing home care. Then when stubborn MIL takes a bad fall at home, the neighbor or the uncle or whoever reports her to social services, who see with their own eyes that she needs to go into a nursing home, and at this point both are taken care of. No need for you to pay anything (nor will you inherit anything). Your husband is an idiot.

Please stop stressing out over this. It seems there is provision under German law for all of their issues. It's just going to take a little time. Hold the (non-paying) line until then.[/quote]

OP here. PP, thanks for your reply, I love it!
The funny thing is that social services already paid a visit to MIL last week while investigating my FIL's living situation (who is now in the nursing home) and potential caregiver(s). MIL could not get out of bed when the door bell rang, but not to worry, she told the social worker over the phone to come in, since the key was in the front door from the outside. I was shocked to hear from the neighbor that she regularly keeps the key in the door from the outside so that the neighbor etc can come in (she does not trust him enough to give him a key). [b]Upon seeing this, the social worker has advised us to initiate a guardianship proceeding for her, too.[/b][/quote]

Good. Things are moving.[/quote]

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