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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, are you a youngish black woman? I detect attitude along with a cynical hatred of “the Man.” You’re determined not to let your job and boss “own you,” but you’re in a system that requires their support.

It seems like your self-respect comes from not letting others get any more of you than is absolutely necessary. But, the reality is that you seem unfriendly, emotionally stingy, distant, and even arrogant. You can be your own person without making work a mere “transaction.”

People are hired because they can do the job, want to do the job, and are a joy to work with. It sounds like you can do the job, but couldn’t care less about the job and its people. Keep that up and you won’t go far in life.

To see what I mean, imagine yourself as the boss and you’re running your own company. Now, imagine interacting with an employee who just wishes you would get out of their face. Do you want your money paying someone like that or would you prefer someone who makes work enjoyable?[/quote]

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Wow, close! Youngish, woman of color  (not black). But yes, you are correct. I am amazed at your assessment. I am very emotionally stingy, distant. I could be arrogant depending on the topic. Work is definitely a transaction for me. I don't care much about the people and over the years less about the job. 
I definitely wish would my boss would get out of my face and let me do my job. I have never enjoyed working with 80 percent of the people I have met throughout my career.

Very good assessment. Now how do I change to be more like everyone else?[/quote]

I’m not the PP who wrote the assessment, but I have a suggestion that was given to me by one of my first managers.

In that job, I was a compartmentalizer and very private—kept my work and personal completely separate—and I’m by nature very task-oriented. When my manager and I met to go over my review, peer feedback was that I was standoffish, disinterested in people.

Manager gave me the advice of treating the social pieces of the job as tasks until they became habit. I started adding these as action items/tasks, anything from “chitchat”  to “ask about Larla’s new puppy” as a task. I did not have a good memory for this stuff, so kept brief notes so I would be able to follow up.

If you view social niceties and meeting face time as falling under the umbrella of investing in relationships, it might make it easier for you to do them.

This pays off not only for networking, but makes getting your job done easier—when there are roadblocks or bumps along the way, it’s usually easier to find solutions when you have a positive connection.

Hope that perspective helps you![/quote]

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