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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I believe teens deep down are still looking to us and still want our approval. So show them in every way that you are not disappointed, that they did amazingly well, and that you love the options they have. Remind them they can be as or more successful where they land. Nothing is determined.

[b]To do this well, you have to sincerely feel that way yourself. [/b]Our Instagram society is constantly pushing the wrong message in terms of prestige, but we need to be better and wiser for our children’s sake. [/quote]

This is the only part I disagree with. You absolutely can do this well while dealing with your own disappointment. Kids don’t make teams, kids don’t get parts in plays, kids don’t get put in front in the recital—how often has this happened and we were angry/disappointed/sad l because we believed that our kids deserved a different outcome? Parenting is often about hiding that feeling and helping your kid feel OK about the outcome, having them know you are proud of them no matter what, making sure they know that their success and happiness is not tied up in any one outcome. It’s also about letting them feel sad without burdening them with your own sadness, even if you’re feeling it. We’re human and allowed to have feelings, even irrational ones. The key is to understand how your feelings affect your kids and modulate accordingly.[/quote]

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