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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You're overestimating the importance of appearance, at least for men of the type you'd want to be interested in you.  The exception is weight - being overweight is a singificant handicap because that is usually interpreted (rightly or wrongly) as reflecting a character weakness.  In your case, that's a non-issue, but you lack confidence in the value of the non-physical attributes you may possess which men usually find attractive, e.g., intelligence, education, a demonstrable interest in being healthy, professional accomplishment, dressing with at least some care, being at least a little adventurous, good conversational skills, and other non-gender-specific traits which are usually perceived as reflecting an attractive personality.  [/quote]

OP, before you make any physical alterations, please consider talking to a counselor about why you consider your own looks unattractive. Yes, you may have a huge nose or whatever and be objectively not what society deems pretty. But is there more going on with your being so down on yourself? Worth unpacking and being sure it's only about, say, a nose, and not about how you were treated for your looks when younger or whatever.

I am not saying "it's all in your head" by any means, OP, I'm just saying, heed the PP above, and then consider if the issue is really more about low self-confidence and devaluing yourself than it is about your looks. [/quote]

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