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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Are the kids doing good? If they are then you wanting to get custody from your husband is simply about your own emotions and not necessarily in the childs best interest.
Children raised by their father who has custody have life outcomes on par with being raised by two parents while children raised by a single mother have much worse outcomes.
This is a truth the moms do not like to hear. THey will deny it, but it is true.

https://www.oklahoman.com/story/news/2001/07/09/study-children-fare-better-with-divorced-dads-factors-besides-income-were-of-benefit-to-fathers/62139586007/

"... But Farrell discovered that even when the father and mother had equal income, the children who were with their father full time - boys and girls - did better than those with their moms full time.

And his income was much less likely to come from the government. He was seen, therefore, as a positive role model - one who juggled work and children, without being dependent on financial assistance. A father's greater income, then, is not THE benefit, but simply an additional benefit.

So what do we mean when we say that children "do better?" [b]A study from the Journal of Social Issues found that boys who lived with their fathers after divorce were friendlier, had a higher degree of self-esteem, were more mature, and more independent.[/b]

Boys who lived only with their moms grew up to be more demanding and tended to develop coercive relationships with their mothers.

Kyle Pruett of [b]Yale studied infants living only with their dads[/b]. He discovered that their [b]personal and social skills were 2 to 6 months ahead of schedule. The same was true for older babies, indicating that a father's impact begins at birth.[/b] There are many of us fathers who could have told him that.

A new[b] Danish study of 1,200 children aged 35, half with single moms and half with single dads, found that those living with dads were less sensitive to criticism and had fewer temper tantrums.[/b] They were only [b]half as likely to have frequent nightmares, feelings of low self-esteem and loneliness, and one-third less likely to feel victimized by other children.
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The Danish study compared the stress experienced by single moms and single dads. They found that [b]single moms had a more difficult time combining work with child-raising, even though they were more likely to receive financial assistance.[/b]

[b]Overall, children living with dads were less likely to have discipline problems.[/b] Does this mean that dads were more likely to resort to physical punishment? No. Moms were. And they used physical discipline more frequently. Nevertheless, children living with their moms were more likely to exhibit frequent temper tantrums..."[/quote]

I am as pro dad as anyone but that’s probably a result of bias.  Why?  Because it’s much harder to get custody as a dad, so those that do are on average better.  If more dads got custody, things would even out a bit.

Still it’s a good point to raise.  There’s a lot of “women and men are exactly equal except for all the ways women are better” narrative on here and elsewhere.  Usually without any real data backing it up.[/quote]

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